So many of us tend to be way too hard on ourselves over the smallest things – we put ourselves down for something we did or did not do, said or did not say, or even the way we look. And, of course, beating ourselves up does not help anything or change what happened or what is.
Sometimes I’ll go over and over something that happened years ago, and the memories haunt me. It’s so easy to beat myself up over things that happened years ago, which I cannot change. I need to forgive and love myself and let it go. And that’s a good lesson for all of us.
There will always be times when we don’t handle things well, when we get overwhelmed, exhausted, short-tempered, angry, or frustrated. We may become upset or even be rude to others. We don’t always use the best judgment. And it’s okay. Forgive and love yourself anyway.
We are human. And life on earth is messy and unpredictable. As much as we want it to be, life here is not all light, love, joy, and peace. There will always be times of illness, loss, fear, pain, struggle, and hardship. All of that is part of life. But we don’t have to get stuck in negatives and self-condemnation, live there, and allow that to be all that there is.
All of that, the good and the bad, the highs and the lows, helps us to be whole. We are meant to live ALL of it and embrace all of life.
Always forgive yourself. You are human and fallible and evolving. Forgiveness is to witness it and to let it go. Don’t let it own you and keep you stuck and mired in it. Thank it for teaching you. Forgive it, bless it, thank it, and let it go. Forgive yourself.
You are not the same person you used to be. Allow yourself to become free from the ties to your past burdens and traumas. Allow yourself to be free to move forward and become more than you were before. Life will keep changing, and so must we.
Simply take a step back, take a deep breath, and witness what you are going through. Notice the difficulty, the pain, and the stuck places. Notice the moments of light, love, joy, and peace. Witness all of it. Breathe. You are so much more than anything that has happened.
We are not here to be perfect. We are here to learn and grow and to experience life. And we do all of that from the totality of life – from our mistakes, from the messiness and difficulties, and from the joys. Embrace it all – and love and accept yourself through it all.
Be proud of your journey. All of it. Be proud of how far you have come. Be proud of who you have become and who you are now.
Immerse yourself in overwhelming feelings of immense and powerful self-love and acceptance so that you can feel both the giving and the receiving of love. Love and accept who you are today. Who you are right now. That is the greatest gift you can give yourself.
Forgive yourself. Love yourself. Love and accept yourself exactly as you are right now.
I forgive myself. I love myself. I love and accept myself exactly as I am right now.
As you move through life, be kind to everyone and to all life around you, and always remember to be kind to yourself as well. Because you deserve it. You deserve the best that life has to offer. So forgive yourself often. And love yourself always.
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