Contradictions – There are quite a few ideas and perspectives which I embrace and believe. I have also seen others post ideas and perspectives that are the opposite of what I have posted and discussed, and in fact contradict what I have said. And you know what? I find that I also agree with what the other person has posted as well. The other person also makes really good points, and what they say is also true.
It may seem absurd, but I do believe that contradictions and paradoxes can co-exist and both be true. Take, for example, the following contradictions.
You can be or do anything.
Know your limitations.
What you think, you become.
You are not your thoughts.
You are exactly where you are supposed to be.
If you don’t like where you are, change it, you are not stuck anywhere, except by your own beliefs.
The highest life is service to others.
Take care of and love yourself first in order to be there for anyone else.
What you don’t like in others is because that is something you don’t like in yourself.
Sometimes what we don’t like is an honest assessment of our values, integrity, growth, and perspective.
Everything is a reflection of something in me, I can learn from everything.
Don’t take anything personal, almost nothing is about you.
Be kind to others and don’t hurt anyone; being kind is better than being right.
Always be honest and truthful, even if it hurts.
Life is simple.
Life is complex, extraordinary, and miraculous.
The only reality that exists and the only thing we have is here and now.
Life is all time and all space.
You are merely a drop in the ocean.
You are the ocean in a drop.
In order to heal, you must face and work through your fears and dark places.
Don’t dwell on the negative, put energy towards and focus on the positive.
All of these can co-exist, and each of them has its place. Are they contradictions? Yes, absolutely – and that’s okay. None of these by itself is the whole truth; however, there is truth in each one of them. They are each from a different perspective, view, context, and place in life. In certain circumstances, each may apply and be true. Just like the proverbial three blind men feeling and describing different parts of an elephant, each is true, but each is not the whole truth.
There are times in our lives when we need to hear one side of these, and there are times when we need the other. Some of it is checks and balances, bringing balance to our lives. At different times and in different contexts, what we need to hear and what is valuable, authentic, and true for us, can change and can be a contradiction. All of it has its place.
So if our circumstances and perspective keep changing, how can our philosophy and view of life not change as well? Therefore, I don’t think any one philosophy has the entire truth for all time and for all people – unless it’s a philosophy that incorporates change, variation, and contradictions, and the philosophy itself keeps shifting.
So how do we handle this? What you can do is always honor your own truth, for however it manifests, in whatever way it touches you inside as being true, meaningful, and valuable – and allow that to change in different circumstances, situations, and over time.
Life, as well as ourselves, keeps changing. Allow the shifts, the changes, and the contradictions. Let it all simply be, all sides of it, contradictions and all, and take to heart whatever feels right to you at the time.
May you always find life interesting and rewarding, including all the contradictions.
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