Enemies – I’ve heard it said to keep your friends close and your enemies closer. I used to think that was strategic in a military way, so that you would know what your enemies were up to, so you would not be blind-sided, or maybe you could even make a pre-emptive strike.
But now I think that maybe “keep your enemies closer” means something different. Maybe we should keep our enemies close because that’s where we need the most compassion, the most nurturing, the most love. That’s where we need the most tenderness, understanding, and healing. Because that’s where we’re hurting the most.
Maybe keep your enemies close helps us face each other and see our human-ness and similarities in each other. And maybe when honestly faced, we might see that there are more similarities between us than differences. Maybe we can then even learn to make peace with our differences and love each other despite those differences. Or possibly even honor those differences. Maybe our enemies could become our teachers. And maybe they could even become friends.
Maybe when we keep our enemies close to us, it forces us to look deep inside ourselves, see what is being touched. We are forced to look at our own shadow, our own inner demons, and deal with our own stuck places. And when we do that, our world changes, because we change.
We are all the same – we are all human, all struggling and doing our best. Everyone out there is just another me. Whether friend or enemy, each person reflects another aspect of me. And once showered with love, light, kindness, and compassion – it all shifts.
The shadows are not so big and scary anymore. They change and morph into something more human, something we can see and deal with. They show their true nature, who and what they really are. They become us. They reflect and show our own fears, patterns, beliefs, attachments, ruts, and places where we are stuck. And once exposed, we no longer need to fight them, we can now accept and honor them, because they are us.
So maybe we can now discover that the enemy is not out there. It is in ourselves, part of who we are. And when it is seen and faced, accepted and loved, we realize it is us all along. And we become whole.
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