E – Enemies

ad05Enemies – I’ve heard it said to keep your friends close and your enemies closer. I used to think that was strategic in a military way, so that you would know what your enemies were up to, so you would not be blind-sided, or maybe you could even make a pre-emptive strike.

But now I think that maybe “keep your enemies closer” means something different. Maybe we should keep our enemies close because that’s where we need the most compassion, the most nurturing, the most love. That’s where we need the most tenderness, understanding, and healing. Because that’s where we’re hurting the most.

E.IMG_3626[1]Maybe keeping your enemies close also helps us take responsibility for our actions and our words, see the consequences of what we do and say, and learn to communicate effectively and kindly.

Maybe keep your enemies close helps us face each other and see our human-ness and similarities in each other. And maybe when honestly faced, we might see that there are more similarities between us than differences. Maybe we can then even learn to make peace with our differences and love each other despite those differences. Or possibly even honor those differences.  Maybe our enemies could become our teachers. And maybe they could even become friends.

C.Tear[1]Maybe when we keep our enemies close to us, it forces us to look deep inside ourselves, see what is being touched. We are forced to look at our own shadow, our own inner demons, and deal with our own stuck places. And when we do that, our world changes, because we change.

We are all the same – we are all human, all struggling and doing our best. Everyone out there is just another me. Whether friend or enemy, each person reflects another aspect of me. And once showered with love, light, kindness, and compassion – it all shifts.

E.Leaf[1]The shadows are not so big and scary anymore. They change and morph into something more human, something we can see and deal with. They show their true nature, who and what they really are. They become us. They reflect and show our own fears, patterns, beliefs, attachments, ruts, and places where we are stuck. And once exposed, we no longer need to fight them, we can now accept and honor them, because they are us.

file3681309720303[1]So maybe we can now discover that the enemy is not out there. It is in ourselves, part of who we are. And when it is seen and faced, accepted and loved, we realize it is us all along. And we become whole.

Copyright © 2014 Lynn Miclea. All Rights Reserved.


About Lynn Miclea

LYNN MICLEA grew up in New York and moved to California while in her twenties. A certified hypnotherapist, Reiki Master practitioner, and EFT (tapping) practitioner, with a bachelor’s degree in psychology, she spent many years working in the medical field and in various offices in an administrative capacity. She is also an accomplished musician and plays the piano at various senior facilities, where her music touches those who need it the most. After retiring in 2013, Lynn discovered a passion for writing, and she has become a successful author with ten books published. Two of her books are powerful memoirs, and eight are uplifting and fun children’s animal stories about kindness, believing in yourself, seeing the best in those around you, and helping others. Lynn believes that the best thing we can do in this world is to help each other. She hopes that through her writing, she can help encourage people to show more kindness and compassion to everyone around them. She asks everyone to be kind to each other as we all share this journey through life together. Lynn currently lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and two dogs. For more information - please check out her website at www.lynnmiclea.com - thank you!
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16 Responses to E – Enemies

  1. philjackman says:

    What a refreshing thought. I’m going to keep my enemies closer so that I understand them better and make them friends. Inspiring thanks.

  2. Lynn, thiis is so timely, moving, and very poignant…..and flows nicely! For waht it’s woth, I think you are really growing as a writer! 🙂

  3. greyzoned/angelsbark says:

    Very powerful Lynn. You may be on to something here! When we see our enemies and see in them faults, we may be projecting our own issues and perhaps their faults and issues are a mirror for us…and we need to get out of our own way, throw away the resentment so that we can clearly see what we need to see about ourselves. hmm. Excellent post! And I love the pictures you used too. Love ya!

    • Lynn Miclea says:

      Thank you, Michele – I agree with you. We project a lot of our own issues onto other people, and I believe everyone is a mirror for each other. Thank you – and glad you like the images! ❤

  4. Sammy D. says:

    What a magnanimous approach. “Everyone out there is another me.” It does give me pause and push me to alter my thinking, which translates into behavior.

    • Lynn Miclea says:

      Sammy, thank you – I really appreciate your comment. ❤

      • Sammy D. says:

        It is easier to think positively about what you have written and harder to put into practice. I trust my own goodwill, but it sometimes feels naïve to think that “enemies” come with good will. If it were true, wouldn’t some of the world’s decades-long conflicts have been resolved? I just don’t know. Using your ideas one on one seem workable, but globally, I just don’t know. I guess I start with one on one and go from there.

      • Lynn Miclea says:

        I agree, this can be hard to put into practice, and there is no guarantee as to how it will be received by the other person. I think sometimes this needs to be an inside job, coming to terms with it and seeing the other person and the conflict in a different light. I think changing and healing ourselves and seeing it differently can shift everything. However, not everyone will be able to or even should become friends. Some people keep walls up and they want to continue the conflict. Every situation is different, and all we can do is our best at any given time. And no matter what – always trust your gut. 🙂

  5. renatabu says:

    Wow, Lynn, I never thought of enemies that way before. Your post has definitely given me a shift in perspective. This whole post (as well as your writing in general) is so powerful and rings with a truth that I resonate with deeply. Thank you for posting!

  6. rolandclarke says:

    Perceptive and thought-provoking. Thanks Lynn. If only others out there shared this viewpoint… and hopefully they will if we can spread the thoughts here.

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