We don’t always realize it at the time, but we often see it later, after we have recovered and healed from our struggles. We then discover that we have grown, that we are not the same person we were before the difficulty, and that we now are more.
I have also seen that life has given me so many of the same challenges over and over. It used to make me feel like a victim. And I would keep saying, Why is this always happening to me?
Looking back, I have learned that in each of those instances where I felt like a victim, every one of those challenges was an opportunity for me to change. For me to do something different, to choose something else, to be something new, to change my own behavior. To say no, to stand up to it and confront it, to set boundaries, to walk away, to let someone go… I did not have to accept it any longer. I could change my attitude, my perception, my reaction, my behavior. It was me that needed to change, not the outside world.
And all of it was to help me grow so that I would not remain stuck in an old pattern, in a rut that was just getting deeper. And we are given the same challenge, lesson, and opportunity over and over until we learn it. I am still learning many of the same lessons, and I will continue to do so until I have really learned them.
So now I look at the recurring patterns. If I want something different, it is not out there, the pattern is in me, and it is me who has to change.
Have you also found this? Are you grateful for your challenges?
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