Approval – For many years I have looked for approval from others – from parents, teachers, friends, and bosses. Hoping for an “A” in school, and a “Great Job!” at work. When I didn’t get that, it felt like I was not good enough. And I kept looking for others for that validation that I was worthwhile and valuable.
But what I also found was that when I did get it, it somehow didn’t touch me, or it didn’t feel like enough. It often didn’t feel valid or real, and I didn’t believe it. I craved it and wanted it, but it somehow just didn’t reach me.
I’ve now come to realize that the approval that I really need, the only one that really matters, is my own. Getting it on the outside is meaningless when it’s missing on the inside. And when I have it on the inside, the outside approval is then not even necessary.
We spend so much energy seeking approval from outside ourselves, it’s time we look where it really matters – inside. We need to always love and accept ourselves first.
And that’s when we discover that we are and always have been worthwhile and valuable, just the way we are. And the confirmation is the peace and joy that come from our self-love.
I approve this message.
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